I Hate When People Tell Me to Smile

Luizstocklerstudio Gify I hate when people tell me to smile, like when any emotion besides happiness needs a beating. Knock my worth from the back of my head and let them shatter through my teeth. Play them like piano keys, oh, hap,py,day. Smiling is a beauty standard, like makeup, ribbons, dresses, small waists, and perfume. …

The Four Horsemen: Predictors of Divorce and Ways To Avoid Them

You shouldn’t just get married for love. You should get married for compatibility. Photo by Artem Beliaikin on Pexels.com Having a successful relationship is not a matter of chance. It’s a matter of identifying synergistic traits between you and your partner. You get butterflies in your stomach. You search for articles highlighting any reason to …

This Isn’t the Time to Accept People’s Toxic Behaviour

For when those, 'it's been a while' texts come through Photo by Heorhii Heorhiichuk from Pexels There is something a little nostalgic about living in a world tense with fear of the unknown. It causes you to take inventory of the things and people that are most important. Beyond that, it forces you to make choices about life, …

If You’re Not Willing To Suffer Loss Then Love Isn’t For You.

You can help soothe the transition through frequent communication. Love takes a chance at loss.  Love is a story about loss. Love understands that some of its losses are heart wrenching, while others bring the joy of something new. Making a change to motherhood is a loss of a life you previously identified with.  Making …

Stubbornness Is Not A Strength. It’s Determination Out Of Balance

Stubbornness Is Not A Strength. It’s Determination Out Of Balance

Stubbornness is not a strength. Stubbornness is when you can’t be reasoned with. It’s when you're so set in your way that you can’t acknowledge someone else’s point of view. It’s not about changing the beliefs, goals or decisions you’ve made. It’s about a willingness to understand something different. Stubbornness is not a strength. It’s …

How To Know When Giving Up Is Your Best Bet (The Dark Night Of The Soul)

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The dark night of the soul is a time of spiritual transformation and change that comes from intense pain within ourselves . Sometimes giving up is your best bet when you are holding on to an unbearable, self harming toxic situation. Sometimes surrender isn't about defeat. Sometimes surrender is about freedom. You recognize that what …

You’re Not Looking For Love-You’re Looking To Feel Understood

  Some of the most freeing relationships I’ve had in life were when I could completely be myself. Making it a total of maybe a whopping 5 times, which includes family members...and I count myself lucky. You’re not seeking to feel loved but to feel understood. You want to release all inhibitions. You want to …

7 Things You Have Permission To Not Be Polite About

Just say it no matter how it sounds Asking For Personal Space If someone doesn’t get the hint from the multiple times you’ve stepped back from them. It’s ok to tell them that they are standing too close. Not Answering Your Door I used to think that if someone knocked on my door that I had to …

What A Glow Up Really Is- Because It’s Not Just About Making It Big On YouTube And Writing An Ebook

  The “glow up” can be used synonymously with “levelling up” “adulting” or “I have arrived (snap, snap) ". In fact there are whole college courses dedicated to teaching individuals how to “adult”. CBS news reports that young adults are signing up for these courses on and off line. During these courses you can learn …